Embracing The Rejection of Kids’ Ministry

Lady blog picAlthough kid’s ministry is essential to every church, almost every church (including mine) struggles at times to staff their kids’ zone. During my 14 plus years of kids’ ministry, I’ve been charged with recruiting nursery workers, Sunday school teachers, and special event staff for many a year. Every time, I pick up the phone, I feel like I’m about to start a Job interview. “Will they hire me?” Um, yeah..well thanks… but, no. As I’ve told many people, I think kid’s ministry is in part a ministry of rejection. Thankfully, I had a lot of practice getting rejected while single.

Thankfully, I am  currently married to the best gal ever! But if all those other girls hadn’t said, “No;” I very well may have missed out on marrying my bride. Although experiencing rejection was not highlight of my college career, God ended those relationships to direct to me to their most wonderful girl ever! In much, the same way having people tell us, “No I don’t want to serve in kids ministry” can be a good thing. (It can also be a bad thing, but we will look at that later). We should give people the space to refuse our recruitment calls for the following three reasons.

  1. Allowing people to say, “No” keeps people from being forced into ministry. Our service should be freely given. If we serve to make the pastor happy or to avoid the negative looks of others, we are actually being selfish. We will get no reward from our heavenly father (Mathew 6:1).
  1. Allowing people to say, “No” helps to guard our ministry. That really awesome Christian on the other end of the line may have some secret sin that disqualifies her from serving. By allowing her the right of refusal, we protect the integrity of our ministry. We also may gain the chance to help a friend by asking some good follow up questions.
  1. Allowing people to say “No” promotes the health of the church. We want people to fulfill God’s call on their life. Our thoughts are not God’s. We could see a couple being a great fit in the nursery but God may be calling them to help with senior adult ministry. We should be excited to see people serving in every capacity. Allowing someone to say no may actually grow your church

Ultimately, all ministry is God’s ministry. He will provide the laborers. We need to diligently share our vision, recruit, and prepare adults for kids’ ministry. But, we do so through prayer.  And as we humbly depend on God, we can rejoice even in the No’s. We know that God is working all things for our good and the good of his church! We want the team he has called working with our kids.

Rest for a Crazy World

Rest For a Crazy World

Life can be nuts. It seems at times, all we do is sleep, eat, work, hold a baby and then sleep again. Our life can be a constant whirlwind of obligations, short rest, and clothes tarnished with white spit up. And this is before you count up the stresses of your job, the critical comments of well-meaning people, the social crises of our day, and the occasional cold for good measure. And as we fall asleep to begin again, we can’t help and wonder if we read too little, done too much, or been too laidback. Wew!

Quite naturally, we all long for rest, a true rest from this world of constant motion stained with sorrow and confusion. Knowing our limitations, God has graciously given us sleep and a day of Sabbath rest. But there is a very real sense in which we will not be fully rested until the glorious return of Christ. We long for it but do not have it as we read in Hebrews 4.

But as we wait for that blessed day of perfect rest, we are not left without resource. And, I am not talking about our beds on a Sunday afternoon or about reading the latest time management book (I am growing fan of both things.). Real rest and the comfort of true wisdom are found in the throne room of Christ.  When we take to our knees in prayer and humbly trust upon the Lord, we will find peace regardless of the day or of our struggles. As the Psalmist says, “Be still and know that I am God” (Psalm 46). The moment we cast our cares upon the Lord and realize that he gives life, causes wars to cease, and brings healing to the sick, we will watch our world decelerate into a spiritual calm.  The best way to find rest in our crazy world is to prayerfully confess with faith that, “The Lord of hosts is with us;/ the God of Jacob is our fortress.”

Every joy or trial falleth from above,
Traced upon our dial by the Sun of Love;
We may trust Him fully all for us to do.
They who trust Him wholly find Him wholly true 

(Frances R. Havergal)