The Love Connection To Adoption

AdoptionToday, the church is making much of adoption! I praise the Lord for this trend! Nothing is more exciting than seeing God’s people driven by a love for God.  True religion is not eating potluck dinners; it “is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world” (James 1:27). The church should seek out orphans, “with a deep concern for their well-being and a clear commitment to care for their needs” (Platt 2015, 82). One of the most beautiful demonstrations of the gospel is a parent lovingly adopting a child.

Are Adopted Kids Better?

But as we talk about adoption, our message can get muddle. At FBCE all the talk about adoption has caused some kids with biological parents to questions their parents’ love for them.  These kids with biological parents know they were never chosen. And now, they can’t help but wonder if they are a little less loved and a little less wanted than their adopted brothers and sisters.

Understanding Love

To help our kids combat their doubts, we must keep adoption closely tied to love of God. In other words, we need to tell our kids that we are adopted into the family of God because God loved us. He demonstrated his love by selflessly dying on the cross for our sins. On the basis of his finished work, we are called his sons and daughters (I John 3:1). While adoption is a product of love, the cross is the greatest actualization of love. As defined by Christ, love is selflessness.

So are adopted kids loved more? No. True love is not tied exclusively to an adoption date or to a birthday date. It is tied to Christ.  It is freely given by a parent to a kid and continues throughout their lives. As parents we love our biological kids who wake us up at three in the morning because we have been loved when we were trouble. As parents, we also love our adopted kids who were once helpless orphans because God loved us when we were helpless.

We love because he first loved us. – I John 4:19

What makes our kids distinctly our kids is our commitment to love them. Any child who has parents that lovingly sacrifices time, income, emotions, and health for them is loved and wanted. Love (and not legal or medical paperwork) is the bond that unites all mothers and fathers to their children.

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. – 1 John 4:7

Works Cited

Platt, David. Counter Culture: a compassionate call to counter culture in a world of poverty, same-sex marriage, racism, sex slavery, immigration, persecution, abortion, orphans, and pornography. Carol Streem: Tyndale House, 2015.

The Four Most Popular Posts: 2014

Tops Post of 2014I am very thankful for the support that Mission PS: 78 has received over the past year. I have greatly enjoyed interacting with followers of this blog both via comments and personal conversations.  Below, I have listed the 4 most discussed blogs of 2014.  I look forward to the discussions that 2015 will bring our way! To God be the glory! Happy New Year!

4 – What Are We Choosing

child_and_optical_glasses_208523During the predawn hours of July 16, 2013 our hearts were gripped with fright. We had learned that our precious, first born son would be entering the world at 23 weeks with only a 50/50 chance of survival.  Even if Second Peter developed a strong heartbeat and exhaled air through his lungs, we still faced the daunting task of raising a child with several physical and mental deficiencies. As the minutes leading up to our first child’s birth ticked quickly away, we listened to two different doctors as they encouraged us to allow our son to expire upon his arrival. But with barely a blink, my wife and I both knew what our course of action would be. We would fight for our son’s life.

3 – Did Noah Drown

Did Noah DrownDuring the first five minutes of Noah, I was pleasantly intrigued. I had was not making plans to write the following review. I knew going into the theatre that the marriage of Biblical narrative and Hollywood cinematography often leaves our scriptures a little worse for the wear. And, I was willing to give the creators some creative grace when it came to dressing the characters in 1860’s work clothes. Sadly though, the creators of this film did not stop with recreating the historical setting of the story.

2 – Should Kids Go To Big Church

should kids go to churchDo kids belong in church? It’s a simple, straight forward question that has existed even before the first church was launched at Pentecost.   Remember back to Mathew 19. Jesus had to tell his disciples to, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven” (vs. 14).  Speed forward a couple of thousand years and we find the evangelical church once again asking, “do children belong in church today?” Do they belong in our sanctuaries and services? Sadly, many evangelicals say, “No.”

1 – Caring For Those in Crisis

https://peterwitkowski.wordpress.com/2014/03/17/caring-for-those-in-crisis-a-pastors-response-to-zacks-death/This past Friday, the Mayberry folksiness of Eastman was jolted by the depths of evil. The story of how three-year-old Zack was cruelly beaten to death has brought sadness to most every home in the area. And now as his family and the community grapple with the tragic death of this beloved toddler, the questions of “Why,” “How,” and “What now” begin to fill our brains. We want to know, “Where was God” on Friday, March 14, 2014.

What Do We Tell Our Kids About Santa?

Is santa real

Seeing worry take hold of our child’s face, we begin frantically scanning our mental database of naughty children.  We seriously wonder why some erudite person measuring less than four feet tall would shatter our child’s sweet imagination by declaring, “Santa Clause isn’t real.”  And now thanks to this miniature scrooge, we must look into our child’s perplexed eyes and answer the lump of coal of question, “Is Santa real?”  As we determine what to say, we must remember to turn to the ultimate source of all things Christmas, the Bible. In the pages of Scripture, we will find the perfect answer to the Santa Clause question.

The Bigger Question

Before we answer the question regarding the probability of reindeer pulling a flying sleigh around the world every December 25th, we must first ask, “Should Christians even celebrate Christmas?” If the Bible is anti-Christmas, then we can simply sweep aside Santa and all his trappings without a second thought about whether or not he sees us when we’re sleeping.

Some Christians do join Charlie Brown and exclaim “Ugh” each holiday season, viewing American’s who celebrate Christmas to be a perfect personification of Sally who asked for “ten’s and twenty’s.” These anti-Christmas Christians argue that the “Christ” in Christmas has been replaced with consumerism. During the holidays, they complain that Christians buy gifts as an expression of self-love, ignoring the poor that Jesus cared so greatly about (Luke 6:30-31). These anti-gift givers claim Christians place presents under the tree because Christians have caved to worldly pressures.

And as Christians, these men and women have the freedom to abandon the holiday and its traditions (Col 2:16). But we also have the freedom according to Romans 14:5 to celebrate Christmas. As long as we observe the holiday as unto the Lord, we can celebrate the birth of Christ on December 25th. We can set aside the cold winter’s day to praise God for sending his son to save humanity. We can light advent candles, devote our family worship times to the nativity story, and sing “Away in a Manger.”

magi before usIn also quite natural for Christians to give gifts at Christmas.  According to 2 Corinthians 8:7-10, we demonstrate our love for Christ through gift giving.  As the magi before us, Christians can employ gift giving as a method of worshiping God. We can place presents under our twinkling Christmas tree to express how the gift of salvation brought through the life, death, and resurrection of Christ is worth infinitely more than a few pieces of green paper. Admittedly, we must always check our hearts to ensure that we are giving out of love and not from a desire to have others send us gifts (Luke 14:12-14). But as long as we give from pure motives, we can embrace Christmas with a clean conscience.  Having tasted the goodness of God, we have the freedom to celebrate Christ through gift giving on December 25th.

The Importance of Truth

Since we have the freedom to celebrate Christmas, we now turn our attention to the question about the man up north. First and foremost, we must resolve to tell the truth. Christians are supposed to be like God, walking as Christ walks (John 12:25-26). We read all throughout scripture that one of God’s character traits is truthfulness (Psalm 33:4-6). Naturally, we are commanded to worship him in truth (John 4:24). In Colossians 3:9, we read that lying is condemned as sin of unbelief. If we are to be faithful men and women of God who are daily being transformed into the image of Christ, we must be truth tellers. Consequently when we speak to the Santa question, we must speak the truth.

santa clause and Christmas treeIn addition to being a sin against God, deceptive words will harm the children whose innocence we are trying to protect. For our children to trust us and to embrace our worldview, we must carefully delineate the difference between truth and fiction. If we blend the shepherds watching over their flocks by night with the elves making toys in Santa’s workshop, we will confound our children’s ability to discern fiction from reality. We can naturally expect our children to lump baby Jesus and Santa into the same category. And when our children discover that we did not tell them the truth about Santa via google or the uppity child next door, we must realize that our children will also question the authority of Scripture. Moreover by practically demonstrating to our children that google and neighbors are more trustworthy than us, we will have to fight to regain our children’s trust. And we do not have a Christmas guarantee that we will recapture our children’s trust. Are we willing to abandon our children to google and society for cheery myth?

Lastly before we look at how to answer the Santa question, we must remember to reveal truth in a responsible manner. For example, we should not tell a 4 year old how his baby brother was created. Seeking to be truthful and understanding, we simply tell the toddler that God put a baby in his mommy’s tummy. In the same manner, we should answer our children’s question about Santa in an age appropriate manner.

How to Answer the Question

So what do you tell the puzzled little face that popped the Santa question? I think we should tell him or her the truth. We should help our children understand that Santa is a fairy tale –  a fun, but untrue story. With kindness in our hearts, we need to patiently explain that Santa does not bring presents, does not see you when you’re waking, and does not live eternally at the North Pole. In fairness, we should also mention that many people pretend that Santa is real because they think it is a fun way to encourage people to love one another. But, we do not have to pretend because we celebrate the ultimate source of love, Jesus. Since Jesus has done far more on the cross than anyone could ever ask for, we do not have to put out cookies for Santa.

The Santa Story

Although we must delineate clearly between truth and fiction, we should also attempt to maintain our children’s imaginative how the grinch stole christmaslonging. As Dr. Mohler said in his broadcast back in 2009, “Children are built to tell and to hear stories.”  We can encourage them delve into the story of the Santa Clause. We can explain how Coca Cola and other corporations spawned the buzz about Santa through TV specials and artistic billboards. As we sip hot chocolate, we can also talk about how Saint Nicholas, the bohemian duke – King Wenceslas – and Chris Cringle were real people who lovingly cared for the poor.

And once the tree is set up, we can encourage our children to explore other fictional stories associated with Christmas such as “How the Grinch Stole Christmas,” “The Best Christmas Pageant Ever,” and “The Christmas Carol.” We do not have to banish all fiction to the destruction on “Mount Crumpit.” Nor do we have to discard every Christmas song that does not mention Christ. We can have stories at Christmas.

But we do have to tell the truth to our children. We have to help them discern reality from fiction during the holiday season. And if we do tell them the truth, we will equip our children to sort through fiction and the many false world views that will shortly envelope them. We will prepare our children to discern the value of a story upon the authority of scripture. For the sake of our children and the gospel, we must be truth tellers.

Truth & Love

Once we tell our children the truth, we cannot pat them on the head and scoot them out the door. If we do, we may be sending little Scrooge commando’s out into the world intent on sabotaging Christmases far and near. These little Grinchy Special Forces will invariably wreck the happiness of other kids, parents, and grandparents with their little truth filled explosives. I don’t think its best for us to mobilize a midget-sized anti-Christmas brigade.

don not fearTo send little, lovable “Tiny Tim’s” into the world, we must equip our children to handle truth with love (Eph. 4:15). To accomplish this feat, we can remind our children that our words should always encourage others to be worship Jesus. Even if true, words that tear down and that mock the foolishness of others bring no delight to God. To speak the truth in love, we meet Santa greetings with the hope of the gospel. For example, when our children are asked if the saw Santa, we teach them to respond with, “No, but our parents give us presents because they love Jesus.”  And when our children encounter playmates striving to be good for Santa, we can tell our children to say, “We want to be good because we want be like Jesus. He is perfect and he already gave us the best gift ever, eternal life.” If we model truth and love for our children, they will hopefully adopt “God bless us, everyone” as their holiday mantra and be invited to Christmas parties everywhere.

Conclusion

Although the Bible never mentions jolly old Saint Nicholas by name, Scripture does provide us with the answer to the Santa question. We do not have to fear our child’s imagination. We simply imitate our Savior and proclaim truth. And as we gently help our children understand who Santa really is, we will prepare them for something far better. We will show them how to worship the little babe who has come to give us eternal life on Christmas and throughout the year! Dear friends,

Let nothing you dismay
Remember Christ our savior
Was born on Christmas day
To save us all from Satan’s power
When we were gone astray
Oh tidings of comfort and joy

Have a Merry Christmas!