Kids’ Ministry Changes Everything!

free kidMost every church says it values kids. And, we should want our churches to have this perspective! Jesus loves children and our heavenly father says children are a blessing direct from him. Kids are also the group most receptive to the gospel. Most Christians embrace Christ by age 13. As the great preacher Charles Spurgeon observed,

He who receives things simply, as a child, will often have ideas which the man who is prone to use deductive reasoning could never discover.

Christians, who want to have greatest possible influence upon the world, must “consider employing those resources in ministry to young people (Barna 2003, 19).”

The Great Disconnect

Sadly, many churches don’t actually invest money into their kids’ zones. On average, most churches spend somewhere around 3% of their budget on caring for kids. As one pastor concluded,

Many Christians today assume they value children, but in practice often treat their kids like the disciples did (Reju 2014, 13). 

Because they grew up in impoverished and understaffed kids programs, today’s adults are often content to let their kids use free babythose great flannel graphs located in the back room. Then, the adults run  over to Walmart to get a new coffee pot for the fellowship hall.  Not surprisingly, kids and young families feel unwelcomed in many churches who say the opposite.

Thankfully, this has not been my direct experience. I have been blessed to be a part of churches that recognize the biblical value of kids and invest heavily in reaching the next generation. Currently, I serve at a church with by far one of the best children’s facilities around. But as important as financial gifts and facilities are, they are not the sum total of what it means to biblically welcome kids.

Getting Reconnected 

We actually have to be present with our kids. When Jesus welcomed the little children, he was physically with them, caring for them. He was their savior.

To welcome kids, we too have to be with them. After we create a welcoming space for our kids, we need to fill the space. We have to be ready to hold crying babies, to chase wiggly toddlers and to teach bubbly grader schoolers. And I get that this is not always easy. At times, babies are stinky, preschoolers are messy, and grade schoolers are easily distracted. But our efforts are absolutely necessary.

Kids have to hear the word of God to be saved. And when we take the time to lead a Sunday school class, God uses our lessons and wacky crafts to save the lost! I truly believe God uses Sunday school teachers and nursery volunteers to save and disciple numerous future pastors and missionaries. Though we may have to wait 20 or even 30 years before we see all that God is doing, we now he is moving; our labor is not in vain! Today, I invite all my readers to join with Jesus and invest in the next generation. Get involved in kids ministry and start changing the world!

May God send to his people a more firm belief that little buds of grace are worthy of all of our care. – Charles Spurgeon

Works Cited

Barna, George. Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions: Why Children Should Be Your Church’s #1 Priority . Ventura : Regal , 2003.

Reju, Deepak. On Guard: Preventing ad Responding to Child Abuse at Church. Greensboro: New Growth Press , 2014.

Sunday School is Broken?

Sunday School is brokenReally? Who broke it? The simple but hard answer is, “We did!” Whenever we present a Bible story apart from the gospel, we break, undermine, and destroy the positive features of Sunday school. Now hopefully, you and I are not guilty of hiding God’s grace on a regular basis. But all across America the awesome message of repentance and forgiveness is being regularly missed by our church kids. If we hope to reach the next generation for Christ, we need to grapple with this stark reality by becoming even greater champions of the gospel. And here is why:

Earning F’s

A recent study of churchless Americans revealed that 60% of them have not progressed beyond their childhood faith (Barna & Kinnaman, pp. 61-62). In other words, most people who currently don’t go to church shaped their ideas about Jesus, society and the world (in part) while munching on crackers and looking at pictures of Jesus during Sunday school. And if most who avoid church like the plague thought that salvation was through Christ alone by faith alone, we would have done well. Unfortunately, this is not reality.

Learning the Wrong Things

Most unchurched people think salvation is a matter of works (p. 72). Do this and this, and avoid that movie, and you are ready for heaven. In short, bunches of kids are coming into our churches, flying around our children’s center, and then going out the door with the wrong gospel. Perhaps phenomenon explains why 90% of all 13-yr-old kids claim Christ but only 3% of our youth actually subscribe to a biblical worldview (Barna, pp. 39, 41). And when these kids grow up and want to get more serious about their faith, the largest group of them (31%) will try to obey the Ten Commandments more faithfully (Barna & Kinnaman, p. 134). They double down on their efforts to work themselves to heaven. There are no two ways about it; many of our church kids are getting the gospel.

Why Don’t Kids Learn?

Gospel-Gods-Plan-for-Me-poster-thumbnailThere are three big reasons kids aren’t getting the message:

  1. Some simply don’t listen. I had many excellent Sunday school teachers as a child (some of whom still pray for me). But as an unsaved kid, I found daydreaming about baseball and toy soldiers to be more interesting that children’s Bibles. Kids who tune out now will naturally struggle to recall the gospel when they are grown.
  2. Every kid is born a sinner. Apart from the grace of God, no kid can understand the gospel or embrace any truth. All will either think the cross is foolish or objectionable (I Cor. 1:23). And to cope with their sin before salvation, kids often either consciously or unconsciously alter the glorious truths of the gospel to make their own sin more manageable. I.e. surely I can work my way to heaven and please God without transforming faith. Now to find an old lady to help across the street to make up for stealing that pack of gum.
  3. Teachers are misrepresenting Christ. We could actually be teaching that the gospel consists of self-motivated obedience. Remember David? You need to be brave. Remember Paul? You need to be bold and sacrificial. We forget to mention that obedience can only be achieved through the power of Christ. And perhaps, we promote a works salvation because that’s what we actually believe.

Over 50% of church people self-identified more with the Pharisees than with Christ.

So, over 50% of us good church folk live as if God made us extra special holy people; we think ourselves inherently better than the unchurched (p. 179). As a result, some of us have undoubtedly stopped teaching that we are all (or were) wretched sinners daily opposing God and in need of unearned grace. And we forget that God alone saves and equips us to do good works. It’s quite possible many of our kids aren’t getting the gospel because we have taught salvation by works alone. As one lifelong Sunday school teacher recently said,

If kids are leaving the church, it’s because we’ve failed to give them a view of Jesus and his cross that’s compelling enough to satisfy their spiritual hunger and give them the zeal they crave” (Klumpenhower, p. 52)

Keep the Gospel in Church

Admittedly, we cannot keep every child from wandering off from classroom into the sea of churchlessness. Only those kids who have encountered the risen savior will embrace local congregations when grown. We are not responsible for what people hear and believe. God’s got that under control.

But God will hold us accountable for what we say.  We can and should faithfully teach the gospel. The preached word (and not our gimmicks or bands) is the hope of the next generation and of today’s churchless. Even around 23% of the unchurched get this truth and long for better Bible teaching (Barna & Kinnaman, p. 99). The gospel of God is the complete and only good news we have to offer. If we want to fix our Sunday schools or keep them humming well, we must faithful teach the gospel yesterday, today, and always.

Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers. – I Timothy 4:16

Works Cited

  • Barna, G. (2003). Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions: Why Children Should Be Your Church’s #1 Priority . Ventura : Regal .
  • Barna, G., & Kinnaman, D. (2014). Churchless: Understanding Today’s Unchurched and How to Connect with Them. Austin: Tyndale House.
  • Klumpenhower, J. (2014). Show Them Jesus: Teaching The Gospel to Kids. Greensboro: New Growth Press.


child_and_optical_glasses_208523During the predawn hours of July 16, 2013 our hearts were gripped with fright. We had learned that our precious, first born son would be entering the world at 23 weeks with only a 50/50 chance of survival.  Even if Second Peter developed a strong heartbeat and exhaled air through his lungs, we still faced the daunting task of raising a child with several physical and mental deficiencies. As the minutes leading up to our first child’s birth ticked quickly away, we listened to two different doctors as they encouraged us to allow our son to expire upon his arrival. But with barely a blink, my wife and I both knew what our course of action would be. We would fight for our son’s life.

We choose life because our God had knitted our son together in my wife’s womb. And when we saw him tiny, weak, and barely spanning a full 12”, we knew he had been, “fearfully and wonderfully made” by our God (Ps 139:14)! Though our son’s precious life consisted of only 6 short hours, April and I were blessed beyond measure by our son who was and is a heritage and a reward from God (Ps. 127:3).

Sadly, society often follows the doctors’ reasoning. It sees children as an expensive accessory to be redeemed once a couple has gone on their dream vacations, secured a nice house, and a few cars. Because the precollege price tag for a child is estimated at $241,080 and every year spent without a child equates to 9% more money in a person’s bank account, an increasing number of couples are forgoing children (Alpert, 2013). Those still interested in trying on parenting are doing so often after 40 (Alpert, 2013). The American view of children as an accessory is not even checked by the limits of nature (Alpert, 2013). With their fertility naturally diminished, Americans 41 and over have embraced in-vitro-fertilization at a record pace (Alpert, 2013). Society views children as an expensive article of clothing to be bought if it enhances how we look to the world around us.

Consequently, society deems children with mental and physical deformities to be in the words of the infamous Dr. Haiselden, “one of nature’s cruelest blunders (Jury Clears, Yet Condems Dr. Haiselden , 1915).” People cherish smart, healthy babies. They can turn to “Nuchal Translucency Screening” and several other tests to determine if their child will interrupt a couple’s lifestyle. Americans who diligently plan ahead can avoid any potential mistakes by seeking out the perfect baby, the proverbial “genetic winner” if you will, at sperm banks across the world ( , 2013). Those unfortunate enough to still windup with a disturbed child can quickly subdue them with medicine. And if your child remains uncontrollable with medication, parents can go to internet exchange sites and discard their children into new homes (Twohey, 9). American society has reduced the value of children to a dollar sum and then deemed unhappy or unhealthy children: a bother, worthy of exclusion from the common marketplace of life.

Sadly, the church is increasingly adopting the world’s sense of style. In a recent survey, only 24% of churches mentioned “ministering to children” as one of their top priorities (Barna, 2013). Not surprisingly, church members (even in churches that value children) can be heard rattling off, “Don’t you know how much children cost; once we get a house/new job/promotion/degree/etc. then we will think about it; It’s a really big decision; I’ve done my time. My kids are grown; our pets are our family.” Christians have embraced the world’s standard of viewing children with the tag of economy. Consequently, the average Southern Baptist couple now has less the two children (Mohler, 2013). Even conservative, Bible believing seminaries are dominated with men and women who mistakenly place education, finances, and even ministry before children. Both pastors and lay members say, “We will do such and such and then have kids.” Consequently, our nurseries sit empty waiting for parents to fulfill their pledge to buy a life.

Today, our churches are dying.  American evangelicals are steadily shrinking. By not having, adopting, and raising change_coins_money_237882children, we are setting up our churches to collapse from within. Statisticians note and the Scriptures affirm that spiritual regeneration most often occurs in the heart of children (Group, 2005). With fewer children, we have fewer people to point to Christ (Deut. 6).

Even more important than the pragmatism of keeping churches alive, the current view of children is the antithesis of biblical thinking. Even though his own disciples saw children as a bother, Christ welcomed all little children (Mat. 19:14). He pointed to children as an example of those who will enter heaven. He took a special interest in children, healing Jairus’s daughter and casting out demons from the Syrophoenician woman’s daughter (Mark 5:21-43; 7:24-30). To follow Christ, we must love children unconditionally, embracing them as our Savior did (Mark 9:37).

The selfless love of children is a theme that runs through all of Scripture. The first command of the Bible is to be fruitful and multiple. God views barrenness and the absence of children to be a result of sin’s curse (Ex. 23:25-26).  Conversely, He continually declares children to be a blessing, rewarding the Hebrew midwives with families because they defied Pharaoh by bringing babies into a very hostile world (Ex. 1:20-22). God even designed the Old Testament law to be taught to children (Deut. 6). And when the new born infants of his children die, God welcomes them to heaven (2 Sam 12:23). God loves children.

In the New Testament, Scripture continues the theme. Paul says that women are saved through childbearing. Paul was not contradicting Christ by saying that salvation comes at the hospital via the birth canal. Rather, Paul taught that the birth and hopeful salvation of a child is the glory and prize of a godly woman.  As John McAuther writes, “women have the privilege of leading the race out of sin to godliness (MacArthur, 1995).” James defines true religion as in part consisting of loving orphans (James 1:27). Christians are to embrace all children regardless of their physically, mental, or behavior imperfections.  We create them, adopt them and cherish them because Christ has adopted, forgiven, and loved us even though we were at enmity with him (Rom 8:14-16). To be like Christ, we must have, love, and disciple children without glancing at the economic price tag.

Now, some will quickly counter with the argument of financial responsibility and modern medicine. This camp states that God gave us wisdom and expects us to use it. People had big families in yester year often because they lacked the ability to prevent them. Today we have technology to protect our mental and financial wellbeing. If finances are tight or if you are newly married, a child could hurt your relationship, robbing you of the cash needed for student loans and house payments and depriving you of the “special time” that every modern couple needs to spend together. Consequently, this camp advocates using birth control until you have your financial ducks in a neat row and have expended the allotted amount of bonding time. God wants us to be wise.

Although, I fully agree that we should be financial responsible and that husband and wives should leave and cleave, I believe this entire argument is problematic. First, it presumes good deal of modern arrogance. Today’s medicine is better, but at least as early as ancient Greece and Judea, humans have been able to control birth rates through forms of birth control, abortion, and infanticide. Modern medicine has only redacted the process to the laboratory test tube. People have always had access to various forms of birth control. The question is should we join the men and women of years past and use it to protect their bank accounts and personal lives.

Financial and personal success is never a requirement for any divine directive, including procreation and adoption.  God never commands us to have all our ducks aligned or to have expended such and such amount of quality time as a couple together before we evangelize our neighbor, enter the ministry, or go on the mission field. Rather, Christ chastises those who allow their financial concerns to dictate their life (Luke 12; 18). Think of the rich young ruler, the rich man and Lazarus, the man who boasted in his barns only to perish, and the man who wanted to bury his father before he followed Christ. They were all chided by Christ.  When he sent his disciples to do ministry he often told them not to take provisions (Luke 9:3;22:35). Our Savior commands us to lay up treasures where moths and rust do not destroy.  What better way to invest in heaven than by creating and discipling the next generation?

Moreover, God directly declares children to be worth more than gold (Lam. 4:2). Having children is far more of a blessing than having wealth which can be counterproductive to our spiritual lives (I Tim 6:8-9). If our financial goals are heavenly focused, we make children (and not comfort) a priority.

And if children are a blessing and the true sign of prosperity, they will not destroy a marriage (Deut. 7:13). Yes, children will be used by God to expose our sinful hearts. Stuart Scott notes that, “Our children are often one of the main means that God uses to show us our sin and mold us more and more into his likeness (Martha Peace, 2001).” The ugliness of our hearts will be exposed as the demands that children put on our time and money. But, our sin was not created by children (James 4:1). If we respond poorly because our hearts are sinful, we will mostly likely hurt those that we love the most. But if we appeal to God’s mercy and grace, we will be able to conquer the sins that our children expose. At the end of the day, our children will bless us by causing us to look more like Christ. Rather than creating a world that protects our immaturity, the Bible calls us to seek refinement through many means, one of which is children.9. Second Peter in His Bed 11 am

Lastly, Jesus goes on to tell us not to worry about where we will live and eat because our heavenly Father knows all that we need (Mat. 6:25-34). The Gentiles fret and are driven by mammon. But we are not to be. We are to trust God. We are to trust that our good God who opens and closes the womb and who owns all the earth is capable to meet all are needs even before we ask (Gen. 29:31;Ps. 50).

This is not to say that we earn points with God by having children. We do not all have to have 19 kids and counting to be deemed godly, good Christians. There are many legitimate reasons for using birth control, such as protecting a woman’s health.  But we must never embrace birth control (abortive or otherwise) simply to protect our lifestyle or ambitions. Denny Burk helps us grasp this concept in his book: What is the Meaning of Sex. He writes:

It is immoral to enter into marriage while rejecting God’s purposes for sexual union, one of which is procreation…[we] must scrutinize a cultural preference for smaller families and welcome children as blessings from the Lord and not as burdens. Couples that desire to keep the family circle small must ask themselves if they have been unduly influenced by the spirit of the age, which treats children as a drag on personal freedom and prosperity. That is not to say that couples must have as many children as they possibly can. It is to say that couples should steward their family planning for kingdom purposes, not for selfish ends (p. 155).

In February 2013, my wife and I prayed for a son. Being newly married and newly installed at my job, we lacked wealth. Yet, God answered our pray to the day. And when Second Peter was born, we still had a shallow checking account. While I tried to comprehend what his unexpected birth meant, I remember briefly wondering how we would pay for everything. I simply prayed for God to help us. I am blessed to report that our God again heard our feeble pleas and abundantly provided all the resources needed to cover the hospital and funeral home costs. And I who am the least of the saints am not alone.

Think of how God answered the stalwart George Muller’s prayers over and over again, allowing him to run a massive children’s home on donations solicited solely through prayer. Or think of how God rewarded the great faithfulness of Isaac and Rebekah; Hannah; and Zachariah and Elizabeth (Gen 25:21; I Sam 1:12-20; Luke 1:13-14). Should we not also trust our God to provide the financial wellbeing to support the children that he gives us?

Lord willing none of you will be faced with the terrible choices that stood before my wife and me in the early morning hours of July 16th.  But, we all have a choice. Do we follow the world’s example: daily chasing things that moth and rust destroy, or do we cherish the immortal blessing of children? Do we see children as a fun accessory to be picked up at our convenience and then forgotten 18 years later?  Or, do we seek to have children in our homes, through procreation, adoption, and ministry to point them to Christ? Do we choose life?


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The above post originally appeared as an article in September 2013.