What Do We Tell Our Kids About Santa?

Is santa real

Seeing worry take hold of our child’s face, we begin frantically scanning our mental database of naughty children.  We seriously wonder why some erudite person measuring less than four feet tall would shatter our child’s sweet imagination by declaring, “Santa Clause isn’t real.”  And now thanks to this miniature scrooge, we must look into our child’s perplexed eyes and answer the lump of coal of question, “Is Santa real?”  As we determine what to say, we must remember to turn to the ultimate source of all things Christmas, the Bible. In the pages of Scripture, we will find the perfect answer to the Santa Clause question.

The Bigger Question

Before we answer the question regarding the probability of reindeer pulling a flying sleigh around the world every December 25th, we must first ask, “Should Christians even celebrate Christmas?” If the Bible is anti-Christmas, then we can simply sweep aside Santa and all his trappings without a second thought about whether or not he sees us when we’re sleeping.

Some Christians do join Charlie Brown and exclaim “Ugh” each holiday season, viewing American’s who celebrate Christmas to be a perfect personification of Sally who asked for “ten’s and twenty’s.” These anti-Christmas Christians argue that the “Christ” in Christmas has been replaced with consumerism. During the holidays, they complain that Christians buy gifts as an expression of self-love, ignoring the poor that Jesus cared so greatly about (Luke 6:30-31). These anti-gift givers claim Christians place presents under the tree because Christians have caved to worldly pressures.

And as Christians, these men and women have the freedom to abandon the holiday and its traditions (Col 2:16). But we also have the freedom according to Romans 14:5 to celebrate Christmas. As long as we observe the holiday as unto the Lord, we can celebrate the birth of Christ on December 25th. We can set aside the cold winter’s day to praise God for sending his son to save humanity. We can light advent candles, devote our family worship times to the nativity story, and sing “Away in a Manger.”

magi before usIn also quite natural for Christians to give gifts at Christmas.  According to 2 Corinthians 8:7-10, we demonstrate our love for Christ through gift giving.  As the magi before us, Christians can employ gift giving as a method of worshiping God. We can place presents under our twinkling Christmas tree to express how the gift of salvation brought through the life, death, and resurrection of Christ is worth infinitely more than a few pieces of green paper. Admittedly, we must always check our hearts to ensure that we are giving out of love and not from a desire to have others send us gifts (Luke 14:12-14). But as long as we give from pure motives, we can embrace Christmas with a clean conscience.  Having tasted the goodness of God, we have the freedom to celebrate Christ through gift giving on December 25th.

The Importance of Truth

Since we have the freedom to celebrate Christmas, we now turn our attention to the question about the man up north. First and foremost, we must resolve to tell the truth. Christians are supposed to be like God, walking as Christ walks (John 12:25-26). We read all throughout scripture that one of God’s character traits is truthfulness (Psalm 33:4-6). Naturally, we are commanded to worship him in truth (John 4:24). In Colossians 3:9, we read that lying is condemned as sin of unbelief. If we are to be faithful men and women of God who are daily being transformed into the image of Christ, we must be truth tellers. Consequently when we speak to the Santa question, we must speak the truth.

santa clause and Christmas treeIn addition to being a sin against God, deceptive words will harm the children whose innocence we are trying to protect. For our children to trust us and to embrace our worldview, we must carefully delineate the difference between truth and fiction. If we blend the shepherds watching over their flocks by night with the elves making toys in Santa’s workshop, we will confound our children’s ability to discern fiction from reality. We can naturally expect our children to lump baby Jesus and Santa into the same category. And when our children discover that we did not tell them the truth about Santa via google or the uppity child next door, we must realize that our children will also question the authority of Scripture. Moreover by practically demonstrating to our children that google and neighbors are more trustworthy than us, we will have to fight to regain our children’s trust. And we do not have a Christmas guarantee that we will recapture our children’s trust. Are we willing to abandon our children to google and society for cheery myth?

Lastly before we look at how to answer the Santa question, we must remember to reveal truth in a responsible manner. For example, we should not tell a 4 year old how his baby brother was created. Seeking to be truthful and understanding, we simply tell the toddler that God put a baby in his mommy’s tummy. In the same manner, we should answer our children’s question about Santa in an age appropriate manner.

How to Answer the Question

So what do you tell the puzzled little face that popped the Santa question? I think we should tell him or her the truth. We should help our children understand that Santa is a fairy tale –  a fun, but untrue story. With kindness in our hearts, we need to patiently explain that Santa does not bring presents, does not see you when you’re waking, and does not live eternally at the North Pole. In fairness, we should also mention that many people pretend that Santa is real because they think it is a fun way to encourage people to love one another. But, we do not have to pretend because we celebrate the ultimate source of love, Jesus. Since Jesus has done far more on the cross than anyone could ever ask for, we do not have to put out cookies for Santa.

The Santa Story

Although we must delineate clearly between truth and fiction, we should also attempt to maintain our children’s imaginative how the grinch stole christmaslonging. As Dr. Mohler said in his broadcast back in 2009, “Children are built to tell and to hear stories.”  We can encourage them delve into the story of the Santa Clause. We can explain how Coca Cola and other corporations spawned the buzz about Santa through TV specials and artistic billboards. As we sip hot chocolate, we can also talk about how Saint Nicholas, the bohemian duke – King Wenceslas – and Chris Cringle were real people who lovingly cared for the poor.

And once the tree is set up, we can encourage our children to explore other fictional stories associated with Christmas such as “How the Grinch Stole Christmas,” “The Best Christmas Pageant Ever,” and “The Christmas Carol.” We do not have to banish all fiction to the destruction on “Mount Crumpit.” Nor do we have to discard every Christmas song that does not mention Christ. We can have stories at Christmas.

But we do have to tell the truth to our children. We have to help them discern reality from fiction during the holiday season. And if we do tell them the truth, we will equip our children to sort through fiction and the many false world views that will shortly envelope them. We will prepare our children to discern the value of a story upon the authority of scripture. For the sake of our children and the gospel, we must be truth tellers.

Truth & Love

Once we tell our children the truth, we cannot pat them on the head and scoot them out the door. If we do, we may be sending little Scrooge commando’s out into the world intent on sabotaging Christmases far and near. These little Grinchy Special Forces will invariably wreck the happiness of other kids, parents, and grandparents with their little truth filled explosives. I don’t think its best for us to mobilize a midget-sized anti-Christmas brigade.

don not fearTo send little, lovable “Tiny Tim’s” into the world, we must equip our children to handle truth with love (Eph. 4:15). To accomplish this feat, we can remind our children that our words should always encourage others to be worship Jesus. Even if true, words that tear down and that mock the foolishness of others bring no delight to God. To speak the truth in love, we meet Santa greetings with the hope of the gospel. For example, when our children are asked if the saw Santa, we teach them to respond with, “No, but our parents give us presents because they love Jesus.”  And when our children encounter playmates striving to be good for Santa, we can tell our children to say, “We want to be good because we want be like Jesus. He is perfect and he already gave us the best gift ever, eternal life.” If we model truth and love for our children, they will hopefully adopt “God bless us, everyone” as their holiday mantra and be invited to Christmas parties everywhere.

Conclusion

Although the Bible never mentions jolly old Saint Nicholas by name, Scripture does provide us with the answer to the Santa question. We do not have to fear our child’s imagination. We simply imitate our Savior and proclaim truth. And as we gently help our children understand who Santa really is, we will prepare them for something far better. We will show them how to worship the little babe who has come to give us eternal life on Christmas and throughout the year! Dear friends,

Let nothing you dismay
Remember Christ our savior
Was born on Christmas day
To save us all from Satan’s power
When we were gone astray
Oh tidings of comfort and joy

Have a Merry Christmas!

When Thanksgiving is Depressing

When thanksgiving is depressingMy heart was pained.  Ironically enough, the cause of my anxiousness was an event devoted to the theme of thanksgiving. As I sat through three cycles of videos, testimonies, and songs, my heart sank deeper and deeper into despair.

I heard various Christians talk about the Jesus who gave grandparents great families, who gave widowers new spouses, and who made sick children new. But the Jesus who wept over his friend’s death, who suffered on the cross, and who ordained for the apostle Paul to be tortured, robbed, and shipwrecked was nowhere to be found during this holiday.

Moreover, the God who comforts the daughter who buries her father and her mother within a blink of each other was not mentioned. The God who promises to vindicate the abused child was overlooked. And the God who sustains parents as they place their newborn under a tombstone was omitted. In his place, I was offered a Jesus who looked remarkably like the genie from Aladdin (minus the blue skin and red sash). Rub the bottle; say the magic prayer; and poof, your best life now.

I was grieved because this shrunken view of God does injustice to both the gospel and our savior that I have come to love. If our boasts about God are always linked to material gains and physical health, we’ve missed out on the greatest benefits of the gospel. The beauty of the gospel is best seen when health, wealth, and physical happiness our ripped from our arms.The awesomeness of the gospel is having nothing and discovering joyful reality that God is everything. As Christians, we don’t have to brush our suffering under the rug, assuming we lack the faith of the super spiritual and hoping that our next year will be magically better. Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10:  

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.  For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

As we slide out from the Thanksgiving table into the Christmas season, we should thank God for our families, our health, and for everything and cross_jesus_wood_236183anything that contributes to our happiness. All good gifts come from above! But we also must realize that the beauty of the Jesus does not end with the safe and serene pictures of the Christ child lying in a designer manger surrounded by non-smelly animals. Our savior went onto the bloody agony of the cross. And as he did, Jesus both experienced our pain and then defeated its source. Through his life, death, and resurrection, Christ offers hope, joy, and peace to the grieving daughter, the hurt child, and the heartbroken parents. Jesus offers us an eternal life that transcends our earthly trappings whether good or bad. Our greatest gain is not a great family portrait placed on fireplace mantel. It’s Christ! Him, we can never lose!

As we prepare to celebrate the holidays listed on our calendars, we should not assume that our churches exist to demonstrate the end of suffering. We exist to show world that Jesus triumphs over suffering through the cross! And when the unfathomably huge God of the Bible is proclaimed, I cannot help but be thankful!   

2014 Christmas Gift Guide

2014 Christmas Gift GuideAs a children’s & preschool pastor, questions about children’s Bibles and other kids resources start to pop up around me like Christmas trees in living room windows. In an attempt to answer a few questions and to save parents, grandparents, and the occasional aunt from having to sift through endless internet reviews, I offer you a few recommendations for the following resources: preschool & children’s Bibles, parenting & family books and kid’s books, as well as Bible buying guidelines for older children! If you have other suggestions please leave comments below!  
 

Preschool Bibles

big picture board bookThe Big Picture Interactive Bible Stories for Toddlers

Gospel Project

Divided into two volumes (From the Old Testament & From the New Testament) these Bibles are perfect for toddlers. Covering twenty Bible stories each, these books deliver gospel centered truth in a board format that your toddler eat on while you read!
 

website ready books the big picture story bibleThe Big Picture Story Bible

David Helm with illustrations by Gail Schoonmaker

“The Big Picture Story Bible” is the best children’s Bible designed for preschoolers and younger children. The pictures are large and simplistic. The stories are short but have a high fidelity to the content of the Scripture. If you have an infant or early preschooler on your list, I encourage you to give this Bible a look!
 

Children’s Bibles & Devotionals 

 

website ready book the big picture interactive storybook bibleThe Big Picture Interactive Bible Story Book

Gospel Project

Created by the writers of the “Gospel Project,” our church’s Sunday school curriculum, this children’s Bible does an excellent job of presenting the whole counsel of God as seen by the pages devoted to Zephaniah and the Pauline letters. Each story is accompanied by a great illustration, interactive media, scripture references, an explanation of how the story relates to Christ, and a discussion questions. If your child is only going to have one children’s Bible on his or her self, make it this one!
 

website ready book the gospel story bibleThe Gospel Story Bible

Marty Machowski

The author has done a wonderful job of representing the entirety of scripture in his children’s Bible. Beginning in Genesis, Machowshki covers every major Bible story. Each lesson is accompanied by Scripture references and discussion questions. The biggest benefit of this Bible is that is can be used with Marty’s two family discipleship books, “Long Story Short” and “Old Story New,” creating a great family worship and/or Sunday school curriculum for children of all ages! If you have room for another children’s Bible, get this one!
 

thoughts to make your heart singThoughts to Make Your Heart Sing 

Sally Lloyd-Jones & Jago

This beautifully illustrated book is a great devotional for kids of all ages. It’s pictures are beautiful enough to capture a baby’s attention, and the content consistently points to the beauty of Christ in a creative but truthful manner. This devotional makes a great addition to every kid’s bookshelf.  

 

For Parents:

 

big-truths-for-young-hearts1Big Truths For Young Hearts

Bruce A. Ware

Written by a seminary professor for his two little girls, the book breaks down the deepest doctrines of faith into bites that children can easily digest. This child styled systematic theology book will be an encouragement to parents and children alike as they seek to understand humanity, God, and the Bible. It’s one of my favorite books to handout.
 

beside still watersBeside Still Waters

C.H. Spurgeon

Though I am not generally a fan of devotionals, I picked up this one at the recommendation of Dr. Stuart Scott. And this book has quickly become my favorite devotional. Complied from the expositional writings of the famous preacher, C.H. Spurgeon by Roy H. Clarke, this devotional is stock full of timely encouragement taking straight from the scriptures. This is a great resources for tired parents and everyone else.
 

books website ready treasuring ChristTreasuring Christ When Your Hands are Full

Gloria Furman

This book is short enough for a busy mom to handle and provides sound gospel-centered truth on the realities of motherhood.  Motherhood is a hard but important job, and Gloria encourages the worn out women of God who are called to the task! The gospel provides everything a mom needs to relieve stress and overcome misguided expectations. Ladies this is perhaps one of the best books available for moms! 
 

books website ready shepherding a childs heartShepherding A Child’s Heart

Tedd Tripp

Tedd Tripp shows parents how to discipline for the purpose of discipleship. He gives parents the scriptural foundation and the practical methods for addressing a child’s sinful heart. Tedd Tripp’s book is a great resource for parents both new and old.
 
 

books website ready show them JesusShow Them Jesus

Jack Klumpenhower

This book is written by a lifelong Sunday school teacher for Sunday School teachers and for anyone working with kids either at home or at church. This book is full of practical wisdom concerning how to teach the gospel to children in way that is both Biblical and relational. Jack’s focus on the gospel challenges and reenergizes our hearts to reach the next generation for Christ.
 
 

what is the meaning of sex

What is the Meaning of Sex?

Denny Burk

Use wisdom when giving this book as a gift. But don’t be scared by the title.  If you are looking for a book that discusses marriage, homosexuality, and birth control all in one place, this is your book. By sticking his nose deep into scripture Denny Burk helps Christians to think through many popular misconceptions about sex and tastefully helps believers grasp God’s plan for our lives!   
 

For Kids:

the-chronicles-of-narnia-focus-on-the-family-radio-theatre-463x400Focus on the Family Radio Theatre Drama

If you spend large amounts of time in your car, are fond of road trips, or have middle school children who refuse to read, you should give Focus on the Family Radio Theatre a listen. It brings classic works such as “ The Chronicles of Narnia,” “The Hiding Place,” and “Ann of Green Gables” (just to name a few) to life with fantastic performance by a host of professional actors and actresses!
 

poison cupThe Prince’s Poison Cup

R.C. Sproul

Beautifully illustrated as R.C. Sproul’s other children’s books (The Priest With Dirty Clothes, The Donkey Who Carried a King, The Barber Who Wanted to Pray, etc.) this book tells the story of Christ’s death through a medieval parable. The beautiful story is laced with the power of the gospel and makes a great addition to every child’s bookshelf.
 

princes and the kissPrincess and the Kiss

Jennie Bishop

Beautifully illustrated, the book presents the splendor of chastity in a fun, thoughtful manner that can be enjoyed by young girls and appreciated by those leaving the ranks of elementary school!
 

Tips For Buying Your Child’s First Bible:

  1.  Avoid paraphrases. Several would-be Bibles, such as, the “Living Bible” and the “Message” take several interpretive liberties when translating Scripture. Though more grown up in nature, these Bibles are similar to children’s Bibles. They typically capture the idea of the passage or story, but bear little resemblance to the original text.
  2. Find an accurately translated Bible. For example, the “King James” Bible, the “New King James Bible, the “English Standard Version” of the Bible, the “New American Standard” Bible, and the “Holman Standard” Bible were all translated in such a way that the English words you find on their pages parallel the text of the original languages of the Bible.
  3. Give your child a readable Bible. If your child does not enjoy Shakespearean plays or cannot read old English, please do not give your kid a Bible with thee’s and thou’s. Hand your child the Bible that you consider to be the easiest to understand. Personally, I like the “New King James” (NKJV) and the “English Standard Version” (ESV) the best. However as Bibles aimed at children go, I think the new Holman Standard Big Picture Interactive Bible has perhaps the best and most helpful notes for kids.  
  4. Do not fret about the frills. The Bibles listed above have been published with notes for kids, teens, babies, soldiers, and for every other type of person. Although the notes and packaging are nice, the Bible’s ability to transform lies in the content of the Word not its appearance. If you choose a themed Bible, look over the notes to make sure you agree with them.