Heaven: Why The Divine Nursery Matters

heaven-1We have a ton of images about heaven in our head, but few of them include a divine playground. Jesus says that the kingdom of belongs to little children. Think about this. Christ does not compare the kingdom of God and acceptance into the kingdom upon to our great choirs. He does not compare entrance into the kingdom of God to the great preachers. No, Jesus says that we get the best feel for heaven when we go to the nursery. When we spend time loving and caring for little children, then we begin to see what heaven will look like.

How strange. Today, children are not viewed to be blessing by our culture. They are viewed to be a burden and a cost. According to the Department of Agriculture, the average parent will spend $233,610 to raise a child. Children are viewed in terms of costs. Being expensive, children quickly become a threat to their future parents’ financial, career, and life goals. Consequently, parents delay having children. According to the New York Post, the number of live births per 1,000 women in the U.S. has dropped 9 percent, while the number of small dogs has ballooned to over 40.8 million. As one pet mom said, “Dogs are better!” She is not alone. On the other side of the spectrum, the new slogan goes, “Cats not Brats.”

So why go back and focus on children? Why go back and focus on these helpless little burdens who do nothing but demand time and attention that should be devoted to our goals, hopes and dreams? Why in the world would Jesus make such a comparison?

Jesus makes such a comparison because we are prideful human being who forget our place in the universe. We forget that we are helpless before God.  We need to focus on children because Jesus saves. If we miss the beauty and the value of Children, we will miss the beauty of heaven and of Christ. According to Mark 10:13-16, we need to approach Jesus as a child because Jesus saves.

To come to Jesus as a child, we must abandon the disciples and our propensity for self-worth because Jesus saves. When the mothers with young children (padawans) approach Jesus, the disciples rebuke them. The word rebuke is the same word Jesus uses when he encounters and cast out demons in Mark 1:25 and 9:25. This is a harsh command of separation. They are clearly demarking who Jesus has time for and who Jesus does not have time for. The blessings of Jesus’ touch were to be reserved for those who deserved his blessing and the privilege of being with God. Children were not worth of such an invitation. Thus, the disciples rebuked them.

To understand why the disciples arrived at this conclusion, we need to reflect some on Jewish culture. The Jews and the disciples saw children as a disruption to the advancement of the kingdom. They had the idea that Jesus wanted to only spend time and devote time to people who could help him in his mission. They held to a mantra that Jesus helps those who can help him. 

Consequently, Peter offers to build Jesus a tabernacle on the mount of transfiguration, they are stunned when the rich young walks away, and James and John want to sit on Jesus right and left hand. The disciples were all about networking with people who could help God do God’s plan.

In the process, they became prideful and missed the whole point of the gospel. They essential are acting on the idea that God needs them. They are part of the twelve because they have something to offer to God. They are special.

michael-mims-130838We often tend to view life the same way. We will tell people that they are so special that God died on the cross for them. We say that God died so that you could be happy, have a good marriage, and find a great job. We say things like: “God needs you. Without you, God cannot reach the nations. Without us, God cannot accomplish his goal to seek and safe the lost. Brother, sister, friend, I am so glad God saved you because together we can do so much.”

With this mindset, we charge after the talented. We want every Championship coach to be saved so that they can speak at our banquets. We want our Presidents to pray so that we can finally have a Christian nation. We want the wealthy man or woman to come to our church so that we can finally build a new worship center. We want to devote all our energies to ministering to and to reaching those who can greatly help us, our churches and our families.

We like the disciples do not have time for the children and for the helpless. They are a burden a distraction from our vision statements and our growth. We don’t have time for ‘brats’ because we are focused on the good people of this world.  Like society, we can be tempted to devalue children, because we fashion ourselves as being self-sufficient.  We see ourselves as co-pilots with Christ. And so we rebuke the little children who want to be with the creator. We think we have done God a great service.

But we have not. Jesus gets angry with the disciples. He becomes enraged. The disciples strong reaction is meet by an equally strong reaction from our savior.  The text says, “But when Jesus saw it, he was indignant” (Mark 10:14a). Jesus was angry with the disciples because he never came to seek and save the self-righteous. Jesus never sought out people because he needed them. No man, woman or child can offer anything to God. Jesus did not come to collect his A team. He came to save the sick. As he said in Mark 2:17, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.”

Jesus is mad at the disciples because they have missed represented the gospel. They have given the impression that heaven is comprised of self-righteous men and women who can boast of all they have down for God. In reality those people are not in heaven. They are in hell.

Because the gospel has been misrepresented, Christ cannot remain silent. Truth hangs in the balance, people’s souls hang in the balance. And so, he speaks.

Starting in verse 14, we read: “Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for to such belong the kingdom of God. Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it.”

Jesus cannot tolerate the view of the disciples. We must not tolerate it because their view is a distortion of reality because Jesus saves. And because salvation is not based on our works and on our abilities to contribute to the kingdom of God, Jesus saves all the little children who die.

Those who die before they can grasp the gospel are in heaven because Jesus saves. Yes, their bodies are tainted by sin. If they were free of sin, they would not die since death is a byproduct of sin. And, yes in some cases, those little souls did willfully sin before death. We have all seen a little one cry selfishly or hit their mom in anger. But salvation is a free gift of God. Jesus saves not because these kids are worth it, but because he loves them and covers their sin with the righteousness of Christ. God pays for their sins on the cross and they are in heaven because they have trusted Christ.

Writing to a family who recently lost a little baby, John Newton, the author of the hymn Amazing Grace, said, “I hope you are both well reconciled to the death of your child. I cannot be sorry for the death of infants. How many storms they escape! Nor can I doubt, in my private judgement, that they are included in the election of grace.”

I agree. God saves children and can freely do so because the disciples got salvation wrong. Salvation is not based on us. It is based on Christ.  Because of God’s grace, heaven is in large part the nursery for infants. As John MacArthur notes,

“If children are not readily and fully received into the kingdom of heaven, the analogy to spiritual conversions would be a very poor one. As it is, the analogy is a great one! Children are readily accepted into the kingdom.”

Friends, we cannot cling to our pride, we cannot assume that we have something to offer to God, and we cannot pretend to be self-sufficient if we hope to get into heaven. The kingdom of God is not a senior adult home for weary saints who worked hard nor is it a home for the brave fighters of old like Valhalla who strove valiantly against the world. It is a home for humble infants. Do not be like the disciples here and cherish your works because Jesus saves.

If we are not to boast in our accomplishments, what are we to do?

We are to be like children because Jesus saves. In verse 15, we read: “Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it.” To be right with God, we have to view our works and our ideas correctly. We Jesus tells us to be like children, he is not calling us to be innocent. Rather such a call would point to self-works to purging’s, to great feats of human strength. But as we just looked at this is not Jesus mission. As James Edwards said,

“If we assume that Jesus commends children because of their innocence, purity, acceptability, or even spontaneity, then we must conclude that the disciples acceptability in God’s kingdom depends on similar virtues. But, as Mark’s depiction of the disciples makes repeatedly clear, that I exactly what they are not, nor are we.” 

As the famous preacher Charles Spurgeon said, “If Infants be saved it is not because of any natural innocence. They enter heaven by the same way we do: they are received in the name of Christ.” 

Rather, the call to be a child is a call to helplessness. The disciples are right to assume that the children have nothing to offer Jesus. What they get wrong is their ability. Like the children they have nothing to offer the heavenly father. They are just as worthless as the tiny little children. But, they do not realize it. This is the difference between the children and the disciples, between the children and the Rich Young Ruler, and between the inhabitants of heaven and the residents of hell. The first understand that they bring nothing to God. The second still think they can save themselves.

To embrace Jesus as our savior, we must embrace Jesus and Jesus alone as a child. We must humbly admit that we are sinners. We must agree with Isaiah and declare, “We have all become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous deeds are like polluted garments. We all fade like a leaf, and our iniquities, like the wind, take us away.” (64:6). When we get to this point and only when we get to the point of humbly depending on God to save us like a child can we enter the kingdom of heaven. They are no prideful, self-righteous people in heaven. There are only children and men and women who are like children. We have to trust Christ and Christ alone to save us. Our boast is the cross. We become nothing and Christ becomes everything. We submit our thoughts, our words, and our actions are all to his divine authority.

The world finds this message offensive. It finds children offensive because they remind us of this truth: We are not God. Children call us to repent. They call us to realize that our good deeds will not save us. The message calls us to admit that our cars, our trips, and our crazy experiences will not satisfy. It is a call to submit to the God of the universe, crying out, “God save me. I am a sinner.” But it is a call, we hate. It is a call we cannot embrace without the aid of the Holy Spirit. But it is the call we have to embrace if we want to enter heaven.

It is good for us to have children, to work with children and to welcome them into our church services. Because as they struggle with eating, with sitting still, and with obeying commands, we grasp a sense of our own condition. We see our frailty, our propensity for foolishness, and our need for our heavenly father to shepherd us through life. I fear that we often want children out of sight and out of mind, because we want to think ourselves sufficient for our spiritual lives. We want to focus on the flashy ministries that are praised in Christian media. We do not want to be reminded of our weakness and need for divine help. Don’t flee from your condition. Embrace it, embrace children, and humbly follow after Christ, proclaiming yourself to be nothing and Christ to be everything.

And the great truth of this passage and of the gospel is that all who go to Jesus as a child will be saved. Notice verse 16, “And he took them in his arms and blessed them, laying hands on them.” If we humble ourselves, we will not be rejected. All kinds of prideful pastors, teachers, elders, and deacons will be rejected by God. But all those even the most insignificant of us who humbly embrace Christ while no one is watching will be welcomed into the arms of Christ. He will embrace the children as his sons. He will bless them with the blessing of Christ. And he can do this and do it fairly because he has paid for every single sin we have committed.

“For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” (2 Corinthians 5:21)

Christ has made a way for the humble to enter the kingdom of God. He offers salvation and entrance into heaven. But to get there, we must do the unthinkable. We stop trusting in our good works and humbly embrace Christ as a child. Are we ready to enter heaven as little children?

Love God: Love Discipline

discipline“No.” I hear the word a lot. I hear my kids say it. Being a children’s pastor, I hear kids at church say it over and over again. If they do not say it, they often brazenly demonstrate the thought by grinning at me while the directly disobeying my latest command to sit down. “No!”

When our kids say no they do not ultimately have a problem with authority. They have a problem with God. The creator of the universe tells children to obey their “parents in the Lord for this is right,” and tells them to “Obey your leaders and submit to them.” (Eph. 6:10; Heb. 13:17).

When they tip over their cup, when they hop out of their seat, and when they scream at their parents in anger, they are declaring themselves to be the God of their universe. They are saying, “I know better; This will make me happy, and I have every right to get it regardless of the cost.” Little people who cannot go to the bathroom by themselves are attempting to turn the world upside down when they say, ‘No.’ We cannot let this happen.

The Bible has a term for such little people: fools. In Psalm 14:1 God says, “The fool says in his heart, “There is no God.” They are corrupt, they do abominable deeds; there is none who does good.” We should lovingly discipline children when they do abominable deeds because such children are ultimately rebelling against God. We send kids home from church and place them in timeouts so that they will learn that they our fools. We imperfectly model divine judgement because we want our children to see their foolishness and repent of it. A one week ban from church is much kinder than an eternal life in Hell. If we love the children in our homes and churches, we will discipline them.

This is the mindset of God. He says in Hebrews 12:6, “For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” God punishes his children because he loves them and wants what is best for them. For us to be like God, we too must discipline children out of love.

If we remember 1 Corinthians 13, we will remember that love does not boast and does not seek out it is own. We discipline not because ‘our’ authority was challenged, and not because we are upset that ‘our’ plans have been changed. We should never punish children to defend our pride. Like our children, we are sinners daily in need of grace and correction. We discipline because we hate sin wherever it appears and because we hate seeing foolishness destroy our children’s lives. God administers such loving discipline to us. We must follow our father’s example. Are you ready?

Are Your Kids Old Enough To Date?

kids-to-young-to-dateThe other day, my two-year-old mentioned in passing that two of his friends “liked” each other. Now he probably did not know what he was saying, but his discussion reveals our kids are never too far away from thinking about dating and boyfriends and girlfriends. And when they do land on these topics and want our opinion,  we should be ready with an answer.

Thankfully the Bible gives us direction on this subject. In Mark 10:6-8, we read:

But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh.

From this passage, we can extra three important principles for determining when are children are ready to date.

1. Our children will be ready to date when they are attracted to members of the opposite sex. As parents devoted to the Scriptures, we can only encourage our children to date members of the opposite sex. This is God’s design for the universe. We do not get to decide. God does. He has already declared that boys should date girls and that girls should date boys. Any variation upon this plan is wrong and sinful. As Godly parents, we should only encourage our children to date if they are willing to follow God’s design for gender and marriage.

2. Our children are ready to date if they are ready to leave and cleave. If your son is too young to get a job and to provide for his future wife, he is too young to date. If your daughter is too young to leave your house and set up a new home with her boyfriend, she is too young to date. If you are taking your daughter to the movie theatre and picking up your son from the ice cream shop, your kids are too young to date. They cannot in any meaningfully hope to leave and cling to that cute guy in school or to the pretty girl down the street. They lack the social and economic skills needed to create their own family. However, the high school senior that has a job and pays for all of his bills may be ready for marriage.

3. Our children are not controlled by animal impulses. We should be encouraged to see that our young men are attracted to young ladies and that our young ladies are attracted to young men. We must realize that such urges and desires to be with members of the opposite sex are good and right. But, we must also realize that these desires can come early and be perverted by all kinds of sin. Because we live in a fallen world, our kids will experience hormonal surges and desires for intimacy that they cannot implement without breaking God’s commands. Many children and youth will desire to express their physical urges before they have the ability to leave and cleave. When this happens, we must remind our kids that God’s commands do not conflict. Sexuality and intimacy between a man and woman are always supposed to occur in marriage. And until they are ready for marriage, our children must wait to express these things. As Josh McDowel tells teenagers,

Yes your hormones are strong. Yes, it can be difficult to wait, but the bottom line is sex is a choice. You are not an animal. You are a human being with God-given ability to love, to think , to create, and to make moral choices.

Consequently, the best way to handle the urges for marriage is to trust Christ. We should not encourage our kids to date before they are ready for a one flesh union. Rather, we should point them to Christ and tell them to wait, trusting that God will meet their needs and empower them to overcome temptation until they are ready for their spouse.

As I Corinthians 10:13 says,

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

God is always faithful.

Now, my two-year-old and his friends will not be dating anytime soon. Nor does he really want to. His greatest loves are basketball and Mickey Mouse. But at some point, he will want to talk about more than Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Your kids too will be interested in dating if they are not already. When the subject comes up, what will you tell them?